In a world that often glorifies constant productivity, spiritual perfection, and emotional resilience, there’s a dangerous undercurrent of judgment—judgment of people for simply feeling. This judgment discourages transparency and vulnerability, especially for those seen as "knowing better." As a Virgo and spiritual being, I wrestle with this. The weight of being perceived as a guide or healer can make it difficult to admit when I’m in my own emotional drought. It’s as though people expect that spirituality or wisdom insulates us from grief, anxiety, or depression. But the truth is, no matter how much we know or how much we’ve achieved, we are still human.
Seasons of feeling—grief, fear, anxiety, or uncertainty—are essential. They teach us what truly nourishes us and give meaning to our joys when we finally emerge. As you all may or may not know. I am a part of the Beaucoup Hoodoo ATR Bookclub, and this month's book was Spirits Come From Water by Ehime Ora. This period I am going through relates to this book, and I relate to this time of the ebb and flow. As Ehime beautifully expresses in Spirits Come from Water:
" Release the need to compartmentalize or simplify the various emotions that are budding within you. Give yourself permission to explore each feeling and notice their presence without judgment. The waters will not be smooth forever. You will know fear when they become rough, but you will also know courage when you stay afloat."
These words resonate deeply. Going through rough waters and feeling that fear is not a failure but a testament to our courage. It reminds us that these moments of drought and darkness are just as natural and necessary as seasons of abundance.
For those of us in spiritual fields—mediums, psychics, medicine people, clairvoyants—constantly staying in a state of fear can be particularly dangerous. Fear, while natural and human, opens us up to energies that may not align with our highest good. As intuitive beings, we're constantly receiving energy from different sources, and when we’re in fear, it can cloud our judgment and ability to discern what is ours versus what we're picking up from the environment around us.
Fear can distort our connection with spirit, making it harder to trust our inner guidance. It’s okay to feel fear, and it's important to process it, but staying in that space can leave us vulnerable to unwanted influences or misinterpretations. When we’re stuck in fear, we become less grounded, and our spiritual abilities may not flow as clearly or powerfully as they should.
The key is not to remain in fear but to let it pass. Just as emotions like grief or anger come and go, fear is a transient state. It’s about acknowledging the fear, allowing ourselves to process it, and then actively bringing ourselves back into alignment.
For those of us who work in the spiritual realm, it’s crucial to know how to return to our center when we find ourselves in the "mud." It’s okay to be there; it’s part of being human. What matters is how we choose to rise from it, clear ourselves, and reconnect with our higher selves. This is how we bring our energy back and restore our connection to spirit. Fear is part of the human experience, but it doesn't define or control us unless we let it.
We must move beyond the idea that spirituality means transcending human emotion. Spirituality is about embracing it. It’s about navigating the highs and the lows with grace—and sometimes without it, because even fumbling through is part of the process. Spirits Come from Water reminds us:
"The caterpillar can only form its chrysalis when it stays still. The butterfly is only born after the slow moments. Feeling stuck or stagnant is actually the precursor for incredible change. Whenever we feel the most disconnected, unsure, and confused is actually the most potent time, where you are cradled in divine help. The universe never abandons her children; she will simply wait for the right time to intervene."
How can we learn resilience if we never allow ourselves—or others—to feel the weight of life? How can we know the beauty of peace if we’ve never sat in the silence of pain?
This is why it’s vital to stop judging others and ourselves for their seasons. Feeling is not failure. And while prolonged stagnation may call for intervention, short periods of difficulty are natural, even sacred.
"Not all suffering is meant to destroy you; some is meant to root you deeper into the truth of who you are."
Community is a lifeline in times of emotional turbulence, offering us spaces to share, heal, and feel seen. But it’s essential to choose wisely; not everyone belongs in the sacred circle of your vulnerability. Discernment protects your peace, ensuring those you lean on truly honor and hold space for you. Seasons of struggle are inevitable, but they don’t define us unless we linger in them too long. If the heaviness persists, lean into practices that ground you : cleansing baths to wash away emotional residue, meditating to find stillness within, and movement like yoga or Pilates to rediscover your breath and balance. Reading relatable stories is an act of grace—it reminds us we’re not alone in our experiences and that others, too, have navigated these storms. Together, through community and mindful practices, we rise and find our way back to the light.
Important Note: Sometimes, when we show up for ourselves and engage in self-care rituals, the results don't come instantly. Think of it like taking vitamins or working out—these things take time to become habits and to truly take effect. It's important to stop expecting quick results and allow these practices to work at their own pace. Personally, I’ve experienced quick relief from baths, and at other times, the benefits aren’t immediately felt. However, I know that even when relief doesn't come right away, these rituals are still creating a protective shield around my aura and cleansing away emotional residue. Trust the process and give it time.
Let this be a reminder to approach one another with kindness and grace. Instead of rushing to fix or criticize, offer compassion, affirmation, or simply silence. We are all just one situation away from losing everything and, equally, one situation away from gaining it all. The waters of life are ever-changing, and every season has its purpose.
Let people feel. Let yourself feel. It’s through these moments that we grow, heal, and discover what truly nourishes our souls.
10 Affirmations for Navigating Emotional Seasons
"I am allowed to feel everything I need to feel."
"This moment is not forever; it is part of my growth."
"I honor my emotions as sacred messengers."
"Even in my lows, I am worthy of love, care, and understanding."
"I give myself permission to rest and recalibrate."
"It’s okay to not have it all figured out; I trust the process of life."
"I release the fear of judgment and embrace my humanity."
"I am not defined by this season; I am evolving through it."
"The rough waters I feel now will shape my resilience tomorrow."
"I am deserving of kindness, from others and from myself."
Journal Prompts for Emotional Processing
What emotions am I currently feeling, and where do I notice them in my body?
When have I judged myself for feeling deeply? How can I show myself compassion instead?
What lessons might this season of life be teaching me about myself?
Who or what can I lean on for support during this time?
What do I need most right now—rest, connection, movement, or something else?
How can I honor my humanity while still holding space for my spiritual growth?
Who inspires me to keep going when life feels heavy, and why?
What affirmation or phrase feels most grounding to me in this moment?
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